Family life
Jul. 27th, 2010 11:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
franceslievensThey say something about old people and stubbornness. It must be true, because I can't seem to reason with a 63-year-old woman. Or it might be that said woman is my Mama. Damn, she can be such a pain in the ass when it comes to not wanting to be a burden on her kids, that I sometimes just want to blurt out if it wouldn't be much easier on us to ship her off to an old folks home already. Does she even get what family life's about?
Example: on Friday she's going in for surgery. The surgery won't have that much of an impact, but it's a very delicate one nonetheless. If everything goes according to plan, she'll be out of hospital in four days. Yesterday I call to hear when her surgery is scheduled, and if she'd like me to come round on Friday. But no, I shouldn't bother, because she wouldn't be much of a person to talk to anyway. "You'll be lonely," I reject. "At my age, one has learned to be alone," is her answer. How do you reason that argument away? Because I insist on visiting, every day of the weekend if needed, she simply answers I'll have to call Papa on Friday and ask him.
Yes, this is the same woman who had a heart attack, went in for surgery, and insisted her husband wouldn't call their children until almost two days later. Which my Papa, bless him, didn't do. I was so angry with her then when she admitted she wouldn't have let him call us, and yet she didn't learn.
Example: on Friday she's going in for surgery. The surgery won't have that much of an impact, but it's a very delicate one nonetheless. If everything goes according to plan, she'll be out of hospital in four days. Yesterday I call to hear when her surgery is scheduled, and if she'd like me to come round on Friday. But no, I shouldn't bother, because she wouldn't be much of a person to talk to anyway. "You'll be lonely," I reject. "At my age, one has learned to be alone," is her answer. How do you reason that argument away? Because I insist on visiting, every day of the weekend if needed, she simply answers I'll have to call Papa on Friday and ask him.
Yes, this is the same woman who had a heart attack, went in for surgery, and insisted her husband wouldn't call their children until almost two days later. Which my Papa, bless him, didn't do. I was so angry with her then when she admitted she wouldn't have let him call us, and yet she didn't learn.
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Date: 2010-07-28 09:25 am (UTC)*hugs*
I think the only thing you can do is ignore her comments! (But I get how infuriating it is.)
Reminds me of one of my birthdays when my parents forgot to traditional birthday cake at their place and when they realized E insisted on driving back (50 km one way!) to fetch the cake. I had a hard time convincing her that it was more important to me to see HER on my birthday than to eat that cake.
And good luck to your Mama that the surgery goes smoothly and that she recovers in no time.
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Date: 2010-07-28 08:17 pm (UTC)